Anonymous said: Hi Nate! You're a super funny and very wise man. If you don't mind me asking, how do I stop carrying the burden of feeling rejected in the dating world? I'm a lady and I got rejected recently after one date because I "wasn't mature enough", even though the guy didn't really bother to get to know me at all. He talked about himself the whole time and I couldn't get a word in! My heart hurts and I want to feel okay again. Any advice would be appreciated, thank you. :)
Hi! Thanks for the compliments!
I think there’s a couple ways to approach your problem. First of all, based on how you described the guy it sounds like you really dodged a bullet. Maybe he was good looking or something, but do you really care if a guy like that doesn’t want to date you? You should be rejecting him.
So for that specific example I would say that you should just be grateful you don’t have to date him anymore.
The issue of dealing with rejection in general is a different beast. Rejection is something MOST people deal with in some aspect of their life. Nobody really likes it.
I think the most powerful thing you can do is to give dating and relationships less power in your life. Make them less important. Instead, give your attention to creative pursuits, or your education, or career. Let dating be a fun thing that happens when it happens and doesn’t when it doesn’t.
And if you date someone and they reject you, don’t hold on to that. Cut them out of your life, or at least minimize their importance.
I hope this helps some. Feel free to ask follow-up questions.